One small business owner I know owns a concrete business. He has 15 employees working for him. As the owner of the business, his responsibility is to manage his people, keep the jobs on schedule, drum up
As you can imagine, the success of his business is important to him. But sometimes he takes on too much personal responsibility. For instance, it is not uncommon for him to visit a job site, only to find his concrete finishers doing a sloppy job. Instead of using this opportunity to properly train his guys, he jumps in and starts doing the work himself. Next thing he knows, he is late for his next appointment. Why would a small business owner do what he has hired others to handle? Often, it’s because he or she is suffering from the “I’ll Just Do it Myself” sickness.
Below are reasons we often don’t ask for help, or delegate responsibility, and cures for overcoming this dreadful sickness:
The Need for Control – Are you afraid if you don’t take responsibility, the task won’t get done, or it won’t get done properly? Do you have a need to have things done a certain way, and any other way feels uncomfortable to you? You may have a need for control.
Cure: Start by giving up small responsibilities, overseeing the person and working through that discomfort. Gradually work yourself up to delegating larger tasks or projects.
You Feel It’s Easier to Do it Yourself – Often times it is easier to do things ourselves, but that does not save us time in the long run. Think about how you might be depriving talented individuals the opportunity to grow, and take on more responsibility.
Cure: Take the time in the short term to train individuals for long term benefit. Give them the skills they need to help you save time.
People Pleaser – Do you have a fear of disappointing other people? People pleasers don’t want to let other people down so they smile and say “Sure, I can help you.” And before you know it, you are drowning in your to-do list.
Cure: Utilize the people pleaser in you by suggesting other people that might be able to help, or give realistic deadlines by saying “I don’t mind helping but I won’t be able to get to this project until June 1st.”
An Inability to Receive Support from Others – You will give, give, give, but then when someone wants to give to you, you won’t accept. It feels uncomfortable so you say something like “No, that’s okay, I don’t need help,” or “Thanks anyway, but I can do it.”
Cure: Think about how good it feels to you to give to others. Don’t rob others of that same gift. If others want to give to you, practice saying “Thank you, I would love your help.”
Fear of Rejection, Being Judged or Criticized – Perhaps you’ve had someone in your past that was not very giving of their time or support, or maybe you were raised to be independent and self-reliant. This can leave us with core beliefs about what it means to ask for and accept help in our lives.
Cure: Challenge any old beliefs that are no longer serving you, and rewrite them to empower you. Find someone safe to practice asking for help. Slowly venture out to others who are less familiar to you.
Victim Attitude – Not many of us like to admit it if we fall into a victim mentality. But it usually happens when we feel taken advantage of, and it normally follows anger. The social media marketing plan you asked for poorly researched and executed. “Joe is so lazy. I am so tired of people doing a half-ass job. Nothing is ever done right unless I do it myself.” Do you
hear the attitude of hopelessness?
Cure: Take responsibility for your feelings. Self-pity gets you nowhere. Take action to take care of yourself and rectify the problem.
Scarcity Mentality – Many small business owners shy away from getting the help they need because they believe it’s unaffordable. They are afraid of spending money because they are unsure where the next dollar is coming from.
Cure: Adopt an abundance mentality. Trust that delegating and spending money on the help you need will allow you to increase your sales and grow your business.
If you suffer from the “I’ll Just Do it Myself” sickness, a good dose of these medicines will surely save you some time.
Cures for the “I’ll Just Do It Myself” Sickness
February 16, 2017